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an actual headline deemed worthy of adorning an equally shitty article on jezebel today: Selfies Aren’t Empowering. They’re a Cry for Help
deep heavy frustrated sigh
the entire article is full of gems like:
- “selfies don’t typically contain job offer letters, successful grant applications” (oh you’re right, i forgot that 100% of my online activity must be directly related and applicable to future potential success. better delete my steam account because logging 91 hours in saint’s row iii will never teach me how to )
- "They’re literally just pictures of a woman’s face not talking" (guess it doesn’t count that a woman took agency in taking it herself, or that you know, we don’t live at hogwarts and pictures….don’t….ever….talk)
- "In real life, walking up to a stranger, tilting your head downward at a 45-degree angle, duckfacing, pushing your tits together, and screaming "DO YOU THINK I’M PRETTY!" would be summon the authorities. On the internet, it’s just how people operate.” (because there’s no documented cultural and behavioral division between “real life” and the online sphere. guess i forgot i have to act exactly the same in every aspect of me life, and take pictures of myself in none of them)
- "I kind of hate all of them. ‘Hey guys, I’m by myself!’ my selfie says, ‘Can you please somehow indicate that other humans are out there so that I do not collapse into my own loneliness????? LOLOLOL’" (god forbid someone use the internet as a way of connecting with people who feel the same, occasionally using pictures of themselves as a vehicle to do that)
- "Young women take selfies because they don’t derive their sense of worth from themselves, they rely on others to bestow their self-worth on them." (or maybe we just looked really cute today and wanted to show our friends, you sack of horse shit)
never trust anyone who tells you that selfies are intrinsically disempowering. never let anyone make you feel bad about having the power to document your life and present yourself in a way that you can control.
best tidbit from the comment section, by someone with the handle youdontsay:
How does “backlash” ever prove a point? People picket the KKK. Does that mean they have a point? When you write stupid shit and get called on it, it does not mean you made a point. It means people noticed you were wrong and being an asshole.
Also, her profile pic at the top of the article? A selfie. :3
Present at the discussion, which was a workshop on sexism and education in London, were thirty-two women and five men. Apart from the fact that the tape revealed that the men talked for over 50 per cent of the time, it also revealed that what the men wanted to talk about – and the way in which they wanted to talk – was given precedence.
feminist men lmao
Funny how that works.
Well WHAT A SURPRISE
very shock. much surprise. such feminism. wow.
oh but we’re doing feminism wrong if we’re not here to make men more comfortable!! bullshit.
Yeah no. If you, as a male feminist, don’t know these statistics: http://www.pbs.org/speak/speech/prejudice/women/ then LEARN them, and if, on KNOWING them, you don’t make the Conscious Effort to be certain that the speaking space and time are not consistently male dominated, then you’re a terrible feminist. Just saying.
Anonymous asked: How should i treat boys
for the good ones: tell them about what happened to you. recognize their good intentions, but remind them that intent doesnt make them any less dangerous. thank them for correcting themselves, or trying to, but dont let them get away with being lazy, because privilege is all about being lazy: my white privilege lets me be lazy about watching for cops, because i’m not gonna get stop-n-frisked too much, im not gonna get pulled over for nothing that often. their male privilege lets them be lazy about some things. white male privilege lets them be lazy about most things.
understand that patriarchy fucked them, too. understand that they are terrified about the size of their dicks and biceps, terrified about dressing well enough to be called a faggot and having done to them what they know is done to faggots. they are terrified of us laughing at them, of us not needing them, of us being as powerful and as wise and as observant as their mothers were, if they had mothers. pity them for this, but don’t let it stay your voice, or, if you are in danger, your hands, knees, elbows, heels, weapons.
treat them like they are monsters, but not innate ones. monsters made in labs, in conference rooms, in locker rooms and focus groups. generation upon generation of monsters, most of whom don’t want to hurt anyone but don’t know what “hurt” is, who have never been given a working definition, who have been taught that it doesn’t hurt anyone to ignore a “no” or to insist that a woman or a girl give up some of her time, her words, her body, her sanity to entertain or placate them. that these are victimless crimes because the victims aren’t human, aren’t real, were “asking for it”. understand that most of them don’t know the definition of “rape”, were never told, were in fact told otherwise, lots of times, by people they could trust.
treat boys like they could be a lot better than they are. the good ones want to be, are empathic, are strong enough to be critical of their places and selves.
recently a 41 year old woman watched a 20-something douchebag in a trilby ask the permission of the man sitting next to me to speak to me, then took up a bunch of my time telling me all about himself, showing me photos on his iPhone of his “art”, telling me i looked like “his pieces”. they were nude, twisted women with animal parts. it was boring and vaguely offensive. my older, female dinner companion listened to be complain about the interruption, the presumption, and told me not to be too “defensive” about men, that it would “shut me out” from, well, she petered off. being “shut out” from these sorts of men and their sort of ideas of interaction with me, with women, has been nothing but a net positive to my lived experience.
do not be patient with them unless you think it’s going to be worth it in the long run. don’t treat them like you owe them anything: they think you owe them something, but you dont. no, not even the time of day. not a minute or a glance or a smile or anything, not even your silence or tolerance or “politeness”—you owe them nothing.
if anything, they owe you.
It’s fine for men to watch shojo anime and read shojo manga like Sailor Moon and Cardcaptor Sakura.
It’s fine for men to make pornographic doujinshi of these, buy figurines, and jack off to the characters.
It’s fine for men to completely invade a Pretty Cure forum created for young girls and scare said girls away. It’s fine for these men to twist the entire fandom around themselves, its fine for them to show up to Pretty Cure events in throngs and its fine for them to frantically grab all the free handouts before any of the girls can.
It’s also fine for men to take these magical girl anime made for girls that celebrate being a girl and make them all about their pornography and which girl they most want to put their dick in. It’s fine, because theres even a cute name for them, ‘Ooki Tomodachi’ (Big Friend).
It’s fine for them to do the same with My Little Pony, of course. It’s fine that they can make the voice actors of the show uncomfortable with personal questions, its fine that they can yell out rape jokes to them at conventions, its fine that they have basically made it impossible for any of the 8 year old girls the show was made for to ever google it in public. It’s fine for them to gather in the toy stores around the pony toys and intimidate young girls. It’s fine that the whole show, created to celebrate femininity and how ‘theres no wrong way to be a girl’ is now associated with their fetishes. And its so fine that these male fans get given a cute name (‘brony’), get documentaries made about them, have newspaper article after blog post after feature talking about how they are ‘challenging gender norms’ and ‘transforming pop culture’.
But if a girl ‘trespasses’ into a male space, what happens? (Even when it isnt ‘trespassing’, in the case of Free!, in which a space was actually made for us ) We can expect such timeless classics as: degradation, ‘you’re not even a REAL fan!’ ‘I bet you dont even know ______’, all kinds of threats, and, of course, the posts you see on this blog.
This nailed my anger at the whole Brony phenomenon perfectly, yo.
I only just heard about a teen girl being harassed with rape threats because she spoke up about the triggery “Princess Molestia” meme rampant in the fandom. I think this post is very relevant.
This! This nails what makes me so uncomfortable about brony stuff. I don’t care if guys like “girl” things. What bothers me is how they move into a female space and take it over and make it all about their dicks, then act offended when women get uncomfortable with it. They cannot imagine a space that they can’t co-opt and make their own.
BUT they also can’t imagine women having their own space OR invading a “male” space like comic books or science fiction. Jesus fucking christ, dudes, could we women get a little fucking space?
(Via wolvensnothere )
I’ve NEVER encountered bronies being like this. Ever. Cite me when ANY of the above happened at a convention. I’ve NEVER heard of it happening, and if it HAS happened, I cannot imagine our fandom not crawling out of the woodwork to hound the offenders out of any brony space.
I’ve never heard of any case of us “gathering in toy stores around the pony toys” and intimidating kids. Ever. That goes so far against what most bronies are like I can’t even put it into perspective with our fandom.
As for clop and NSFW and grimdark, hey, guess what. Happens with EVERY fandom on the internet of any size. Rule 34 has been a truth long before bronies, hell, long before the internet. And guess what? Your assertions about searching the internet in public are false. I just ran google searches for MLP, My Little Pony, and several of the mane six, and guess what: with my google filter turned off and logged out totally - NO PORN. There were two grimdark images but both were fairly mild. If a child runs across porn, or even grimdark or other such images, they’re as likely to do it in this fandom as say, Harry Potter (if not less so). And if they do, it is something their parents would need to address, discuss, and deal with as the authority figures in their lives. Same as if they saw something “naughty” on HBO flicking through the channels.
As for Princess Molestia - did you read further than the “assholes on the internet say bad things”? Did you read what the creator of the Molestia blog said? Did you read about the HUGE backlash against the people who said those terrible things to that poor girl? Also, the trope of Molestia is not prevalent at all in the fandom. A lot of the fandom don’t like it, and even the person who operates the blog has toned it back QUITE a bit. Also, the blog has been marked as NSFW and Adult Content from day one.
Bronies are the best fandom I’ve been in in terms of marking the parts of our fandom NSFW that are. In fact, LARGE segments of the fandom don’t condone clop or sexualization of the characters. I’m in the camp where sexualization happens, and I admit, I enjoy it. It is a part of how I participate in our fandom.
Oh yeah. I said OUR fandom. I am a 32 year old pan/bi woman, academic, feminist, fan, and brony. I’m one of the first up to bat to argue for safe spaces for anyone who wants them, and I’m one of the first to tell you about triggers and how not to push them. I’ve got my own set of triggers. I’ve got my own set of issues. I’ve never felt excluded from this fandom, and I’ve never known bronies to be anything worse than any other fandom, and half the time they are better than any other fandom.
If bronies make you uncomfortable, then I make you uncomfortable. Because I am one. My Twilight Sparkle brushable is sitting next to my G1 Surprise, and I have a fan pony plushie on my monitor. Do not tell me why bronies make you uncomfortable because of male invasion of female spaces without realizing you’re minimizing and dismissing the bronies who are not your conception of brony. Because not all bronies are male. Not all bronies are cis. Not all bronies are anything any more than anyone else.