“The lack of difference lends some support to the idea that men interpret ‘my partner is successful’ as ‘my partner is more successful than me,’” the study reads.
In the face of a partner’s success, women felt better about the future of their relationship, and men felt worse. Men felt better about the future of their relationship when their partner had just failed.
Once again, this is why I can’t take bullshit about how “it’s also hard to be a man!” seriously. Masculinity, male self-esteem, and the male ego is built/based on doing and being better than women.(via home-of-amazons) The Male Ego *needs* female failure, humiliation, low self-esteem, vulnerability and dependency in order to thrive in a heteropatriarchal society. The poor boyz are so weak they need us to feel like shit and be weak in order for them to feel like big, strong manly men. Fuckin’ pathetic. (via the-uncensored-she)
God damn what a fucked up society. It really upsets me the number of places in the past my behaviour may have been indicative of my having internalized this bullshit.